LyinEyes, exactly! "but not to sinful for them to profit off of our personal time to put more money in their pockets."
Rubadub, basically it went like this: I told a close friend what I'd done (had sex with a 'worldly' girl ). He told an elder. He then told his wife, she told her friend, she told her husband, they told their families. The elders formed a commitee. My parents were informed. Another friend found out. He told his family, and on and on....
About 12 months before I'd attended one of these 'private' reproofs for someone else and there were about 50 people there! Maybe our congregation just preferred to have private rather than public reproofs.
Those were the days!